WHEN KIDS ARE MOLESTED BY SAME-SEX, WHERE WILL THEY TURN TO SORT OUT CONFUSION?
Eagle River businessman Matt Hickey was molested at age 13. He says the assault left him wrongly believing he was gay for much of his teenage years. Hickey says if he had proper counseling it would have saved him years of shame, self-loathing, and heartache.
Three openly gay members of the Anchorage Assembly — Christopher Constant, Felix Rivera and Austin Quinn-Davidson — are sponsoring an ordinance requiring counselors and even clergy to endorse and validate same-sex attraction or gender confusion when dealing with teenagers. Hickey says if the ordinance passes, it will deny teenagers the help he wishes he had after being sexually molested.
Hickey says the ordinance would be a huge win for pedophiles:
“If you can’t go to a counselor, pedophiles are going to love this because they’re going to be able to approach these kids even more and the kids are going to be afraid to say anything because there’s going to be nobody to talk to, “ says Hickey.
Hickey says the distant family member who targeted him for molestation was a sexual predator with multiple victims. He says his molestation greatly altered his teenage years.
“When a child gets molested, a boy is going to react naturally. He cannot help that, “says Hickey. “When a boy is being molested, he’s going to have an erection. He cannot help it. When you’re 13 and your hormones are flying you can rub up against a tree and have an erection.”
Hickey says as a 13-year-old, he knew nothing about sex.
“Now I’m thinking, oh my God, I’m enjoying this.” Hickey says of the experience. “It was a very confusing time and I told myself there was something wrong with me because I enjoyed the molestation, I thought I had something wrong with me.”
Hickey says he spent the next few years believing he was gay. Today, he is married has children. Hickey now says he’s “as heterosexual as you can get.” He credits God for delivering him of unwanted same-sex attraction.
Hickey believes Constant, Rivera, and Quinn-Davidson are sponsoring the ordinance forcing counselors and clergy to endorse homosexuality and transgenderism when dealing with teens to validate their own lifestyle.
“I lot of people that claim to be gay today have been molested. And they know it. They know what I’m talking about. They can deny it all day long but it’s a fact. You can just Google it,” says Hickey.
The data on whether most people living the gay lifestyle were sexually molested as a child is mixed and difficult to decipher. Leftist bent media conclude there is no link between sexual abuse and homosexuality while conservative media claims there is. On a personal note, every gay friend I have has confided in me that they were molested as a child. Admittedly, that is far from conclusive evidence proving a link between homosexuality and child sex abuse.
Hickey says it’s difficult for him to understand why the Assembly members sponsoring the ban on counseling can’t see how their ordinance would enable pedophiles.
“If they can’t see real simple and plain that this is going to hurt kids, that the kids are not going to be able to go to anybody when they’ve been molested. If they can’t see that little thing right there, then I’m going to have to probably worry about them, to be honest with you. Something is not right here. “says Hickey.
Mark Nelson is a former gay activist but is now straight. He says the ordinance proposed by the Anchorage Assembly is like other bills around the country.
Nelson, who works for the Christian organization Samaritan’s Purse, says the end goal of this type of legislation is to eventually prohibit all counseling that does not reaffirm and condone homosexuality and transgenderism. Even when counseling involves adults. Like Hickey, Nelson credits God with delivering him of his unwanted same-sex attraction.
It’s mind-boggling three members of the Anchorage Assembly are so radical they would propose legislation prohibiting counselors, pastors and clergy from helping teenagers overcome their shame, confusion, and self-condemnation as a result of being a victim of sexual abuse at the hands of a child predator.
As Matt Hickey said, “Something’s not right here.”
To hear my interview with Hickey, click on the link here.
Dan Fagan is a talk show host weekday mornings on Newsradio 650 KENI.
Apparently we do not have balanced representation in the Anchorage Assembly. Minority rules… the majority.
When I was a teenager a girl in my school asked me to come to her house to study. When I was there she fondled my private parts. Ever since then I have been attracted to females and now I’m married to a lady. But I still look at women, especially the Dallas Cowboy cheerleaders. Other guys know what I’m talking about. They can deny it all day long but it’s a fact. You can google it. Like that poor kid that was raped by his teacher, Mary Kay Letourneau, and ended up marrying her after she got pregnant.
you win.
I am a licensed mental health clinician and I would like to share my perspective on this topic. It appears the purpose of this ordinance is to protect minors from being subjected to types of therapy that have a history of being damaging. Reparative therapy and Conversion therapy have a ugly history and these types of therapies are not endorsed by professional organizations such as the American Psychiatric Association. Homosexuality is not considered a mental illness. Barbaric practices such as behavior modification and lobotomies where used to “change” some people from being homosexual to heterosexual. These types of practices have been banned in many jurisdictions and have no scientific evidence for being useful. I believe most people would agree these types of practices should be illegal and most people do not view homosexuality as a mental illness. Where we get into gray area with his topic is the clients right to self-determination. There are many people in this world, minors and adults, that have internal conflict about their sexual orientation and their moral/religious/cultural beliefs, and they seek counseling due to the emotional distress this is causing them. We want to be able to allow all people to openly explore their internal conflicts with their counselor if they choose without the counselor being in fear of violating the law. What if a minor express to their counselor they do not want to engage in homosexual behavior due to religious beliefs despite the fact they identify having homosexual preferences, what is the counselor to do? Does the minor have the right to adopt this perspective? I would argue that the client should have the right to explore this option for themselves although I still acknowledge the risks involved in this. It is highly possible the minor is being brought to therapy against their will and they are feeling pressured by their family, clergy etc. The last thing we want to do in therapy is to re-enforce individuals feeling shamed or alienated due to their choice of sexual expression.
I would recommend that the ordinance clearly identify and define reparative/conversion therapy and clearly state what practices and modalities should be illegal. We want to protect minors from being subjected to barbaric practices that are shaming and damaging while at the same time not create a climate in which we are limiting what minors can openly talk about and explore with their counselor and protect self-determination of clients that are minors.
Bingo.
Appropriately trained and licensed counselors would deal with the issue the man had in his youth.
Dan is stirring it up, and as usual is weighing in heavily from out of state without complete understanding of mental health intervention in such incidents-do y’all on here support views from out of state folks? Heck, doesn’t Suzanne live in the Valley? Get off city issues you don’t live in.
MYOB must read Alaska.
Maureen S. – I do not live in the Valley, but I love the Mat-Su and would not rule it out. – sd
I’m in South Anchorage now, but we are in the process of building in Eagle River and supporting Eaglexit. Los Anchorage has become too much for me…
Jed,
Please cite sources that say there are barbaric lobotomies going on in America in 2020? As for the APA, they say an abortion does not increase a woman’s risk for depression, anxiety or post-traumatic stress disorder. Say wut?
the Bible of ordinance 2020-65 is a document titled “Ending Conversion Therapy: Supporting and Affirming LGBTQ Youth”. It was written by a company called ‘Abt’ for SAMHSA. The company is funded by Joe Biden, Elizabeth Warren, Kamala Harris, Pete Buttigieg, Nancy Pelosi and more. The report is 76 pages of full blown activism dressed up as science. The assembly are using to statistics congruently; an “online survey” about youth suicides in therapy from statista.com and this report which which says conversion therapy is bad. Nowhere in the report does it cite there is a direct link between conversion therapy and suicide. No double blind group. No control group. In fact it goes on to say ‘there is not enough research…’
In fact the report is extremely antagonistic against heterosexuals, specifically conservative religious people and parents/family in general. Yes it does. Please red it.
I am not for converting anyone. But if the assembly want to pass an ordinance and draconian as this THEY MUST HAVE THEIR FACTS RIGHT. And they are not. This is identity politics and thick and as radical as it gets masquerading as science.
“Homosexuality is not considered a mental illness”….
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Says who?
This is not what this is about. This is about children who have been molested by adults.
Comments evade me, without breaking every protocol of commenting on this site. Suffice to say, perverts speak for themselves.
Do these particular Assembly members watch child porn too? Engage? Let the police investigation begin.
On what grounds?
Suspicion. That’s enough to warrant police to investigate a bunch of child pornographers.
Too deep for even me.
Me too. Boiling the frog is overheating the decent public in larger increments than I’ve ever seen in my 60 years here. The agenda of this assembly, minus two members, is getting a little too hot for decent folks to abide. Their agenda seems to be expansive – one can only hope it implodes in a way that they will never hold public office again in my lifetime.
The hate here is just..sad..
This is not about pedophile’s, this is about making sure that children believe that God does not approve of you if your gay.
I really hope that all the people who speak for God get to meet him, the shock will be huge.
Its only hateful because of your own limitations. You are roasting in the furnace. You need to be pulled out of the furnace to see how much you were roasted. God doesnt approve of homosexuality, its as bad as a man cheating on his wife, It mocks the balance and natural order of man and woman.
Genesis 2: 24 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
And.
Leviticus 18:22 ” You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination.”
And.
1st Corinth 6:9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality”
If you have a church teaching ANYTHING different from the bible, Get out before it leads you into death.
KC Riley,
Hate? The subject is about an underage young man being raped by a pedophile.
I myself escaped such a fate, the man who attempted the sexual act upon me was a burly body builder. I was able to get a hard right to his temple which knocked him out for a moment allowing me to retreat. I can only imagine what damage suffering such an attack has upon a 16 year old boy. Turns out many sexual behaviors are learned, could this be why certain groups want to indoctrinate young people? Please do some research through history, for example, why were all Spartan Warriors to a man homosexuals? Look into the Prussian Military system, or even the old British “Public Schools”.
I hold no “hate” towards homosexuals, I am understanding and tolerate others, my hope is that you would do just a bit of critical thinking.
Oh, so it’s historically a guy military thing OTA?
Hmmm…
Yes, do some research!
Maureen,
Actually it is being taken from your family at age 7 or 8 and made to live in a setting with men who coerce a child into sexual acts. There is a correlation here.
Disagree. It’s about the one one-way ratchet. Predatory social workers at ASD & the medical community who are pushing “transitioning” get to work on sexual confusion among the kiddos every single day of the week. This ordinance makes it illegal for ANYONE to present an alternative viewpoint so as to balance the discussion.
The Assembly has at least 4 gay members, 3 of whom are pushing this ordinance. When they were elected, being gay was no issue. Outside the anti-religious bigotry of Chris Constant, they have mostly behaved themselves (other than being doctrinaire libs, which was expected). Pushing this, especially after conveniently closing public testimony due to Wuhan Flu tells us being gay on the Assembly DOES matter. Worse, pushing this revives every single awful anti-gay stereotype out there.
It’s not about religion at all. Rather, it is about passing something that will interfere with the rights of parents to raise their kids while the rest of town is gone filling their freezers with salmon. And doing it without public comment. Pretty sneaky. Pretty convenient process, that. Cheers –
It’s about bigoted people with small minds picking on their fav minority to make themselves feel better. And don’t bother me about your gods or any other silly superstitions. It’s 2020. We’re past that.
AT least you’re being honest Matthew. You are showing us what the left always does. It maligns anyone who disagrees with them or any of their ordinances FIRST so that debate is avoided.
20, 30, 40, 50, years ago and more…..the school systems did not broach the topic of homosexuality in the classrooms. I can’t remember many instances of bullying, except for when some students used homosexual slurs to make fun of a few jocks who weren’t
even gay. These slurs were mostly unharmful. Today, students are actively engaged in homosexual discussions in the classroom as part of the curriculum. It’s lectured about and students are encouraged to “explore” their feelings about their own possible homosexual urges. We have degenerated as a society. Students need to learn the basics in order to proceed on to college and then the workplace. They can “explore” their sexuality on their own time after age 18, without it being part of a left-wing agenda to radicalize. The encouragement to explore homosexuality at a young age is an invitation to set-up the student for failure.
“20, 30, 40, 50 years and more” – the classrooms were meant to teach children how to read, write, use math, science, and succeed. The classroom time was spent on those subjects and not how to put a condom on a banana, for example
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Good grief! When I came to Alaska at 14 years of age, in 1959, (at Statehood), in a military family, the Anchorage schools were at the top of the best in our country. Sexual deviance was not a focus because we were there to learn how to succeed in life. That’s why we didn’t “broach the topic of homosexuality in the classroom” we were there to learn meaningful life education – not a sexually-oriented cesspool. Oh I’m so disgusted, so I won’t carry on.
Amen.
Thanks Doc and Older. Two voices of reason and experience.
Pretty sure you weren’t a gay child during those years. I know plenty of kids who were harmed. In Catholic Schools none the less.
“Pretty sure you weren’t a gay child during those years“. Nope I wasn’t. And I wasn’t having the “gay” agenda waved in my face 24/7 either when I was in school. (That is if “gay” meant something other than its original definition). Have a nice day.
Most Catholic priests are Lefty Democrats. See how this works? Most of this is fairly well linkaged. The same affiliations…….over and over…..and over.
It shouldn’t be difficult even for a 13 year old male to sort out his sexual orientation. Either one is attracted and fascinated by budding womanhood or one isn’t. That should have cleared it up for Matt Hickey whether or not he was heterosexual. If not, then he’d have to explore the other possibilities. How one responds in a locker-room full of other teen-age males is also a good indicator. If the attraction is for the boys but not the girls then counseling would be appropriate to explore the path less taken.
Remember when queers were interesting, considerate, kind, and unusually talented?
Now they are rude, ugly, obnoxious bullies.
Dan Fagan’s lost it here. He’s got backward adolescent ideas about gay people and wants the gov’t to play along. Shame on him not the gays or the gov’t.
Vague proposal likely to do much more harm than good.
That’s why it will pass handily.
It could be structured to do what it’s purported to do but that would take thought, not just emotion.
It is not government’s place to determine appropriate counselling for youth. The decision is made by the youth and/or their parents. The parents are the supreme sovereigns in the youths lives as they are the one’s who made them. Government’s job is to butt out.
I hope this person testifies. I hope all people with stories testify. Get the day off work, have someone else watch the kids, put that trip off. Do what you have to do and testify before these people or it never stops.
This is horribly disturbing and Mr. Hickey has a strong testimony that needs to be heard loudly. These assembly members are a twisted infiltration from the now very evil left and need to be voted out of office. Parents should be the ones deciding upon counseling for their children. Not unrelated confused and perverted men that have wormed their way into positions of leadership.
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